“Stressed” is an extreme understatement when you learn your loved one has been arrested and you need to help bail them out of jail, deal with lawyers, and go through trial. You and your family are not responsible for taking care of everything. Professional bail agents and lawyers will help you out a great deal of the way, alleviating a lot of that stress. A big part of your job would be is to offer emotional support to your loved one. If you think you are stressed, imagine what they are thinking. You need to reassure them that this is not the end of their life.

Think of it this way: you might know someone else who was arrested once and dealt with everything you are dealing with right now...